Communication
_I: It was powerful for me to be able to see where my addictions came from, my mind took me to key moments that I would never have thought had to do with my addictions specifically, and I saw everything very clearly. It is incredible how unthinkable things can lead to satellite or parallel attitudes that seem to have nothing to do with each other, and that, ultimately, shape who we are in the long term.
_AM: This is how things happen in complex organisms. The reason why we lose sight of the origin of things is because of the modesty we have when it comes to sharing what happens to us. Traumas, conflicts, painful situations, in many cases speak of shame, of memories that give us bad feelings, that make us feel weak, and this is precisely what must be avoided if one intends to survive. Well, in nature, weakness is interpreted as death. Thus, the neuronal biological being tries to hide everything that may be a symptom of weakness and insecurity, accumulating it in the shadows.
_I: But that brings us a lot of problems…
AM: It brings problems to social humans who interact as cultures and from individual to individual, but it never brought problems to nature. You have to compare the 65 million years that mammals have lived on Earth evolving, against the 300,000 years that homo sapiens sapiens began creating human cultures. There is a lot of biological weight in cellular memory that reminds us of typical attitudes of survival, not of soul interaction. In the times of the development of the soul and spirit, the liberation of the soul was a more priestly concept than a psychological one. It will not be until the 19th century that people begin to properly experiment with the soul beyond philosophy and religion, causing the 20th century to see a boom in Interpersonal and Intrapersonal Psychology, which analyzes beyond psychopathies and is dedicated to to analyze human behaviors and natures.
_I: 100 years of soul work therapeutically versus 300,000 years of soul work religiously and culturally, versus 3 million years of the human species within the 65 million years of mammals.
_AM: As you will see, beyond the fact that many humans throughout history have dedicated themselves to finding a way to heal traumas of the soul and spirit, they have done so from religious, mystical factors, and not from mere logical observation. and objective mental development. Therefore, the way of expressing the soul was more related to poetry, theater, ceremony, ritual. Back in the times of Egypt and Mesopotamia, 4,500 years ago, soul therapies were treated with priests, who between sung words and herbs used to prepare ceremonies in which individuals performed catharsis, releasing internal pressures, some considered exorcisms. It was seen throughout Asia that there were certain points in the body that released those tensions, so massages, acupressure, acupuncture and other techniques allowed the creation of therapies that healed the soul through those meridians and energy nodes of the body, seeking balance. of the vital forces. In the Greece of the sophists, psychology was the knowledge of the soul, the observation of internal development, but not its treatment. It was not until the 10th century that the Arab world began to take traumas of the soul as aspects of medicine, a therapeutic treatment that encouraged inquiry and questions as a method of finding the problem within the brain. With great shame and fear, the first European psychologists emerged in the 18th century, times after the Renaissance, since until then, the Church considered everything that was not “normal” demonic. With the secular revolutions, the ecclesiastical vision disappeared from medicine, treating internal conflicts from another, more rational and empirical point of view. In any case, as we have said, it was not until the 19th century that the question and answer method began to investigate the human soul in a more psychological than scientific way, something that was called "psychoanalysis", the interpretation of mind and dreams.
_I: There is a lot of that in Argentina… A lot of psychoanalysts.
_AM: The key is conversation. Until not long ago, talking about what happens inside us was a sign of weakness and imbalance. Women had to be modest, reserved, and men had to be serious, strong, neutral and without emotion. If a man showed emotion he was branded effeminate, foolish, weak or crazy. If a woman showed emotions she was called hysterical, menopausal, witch, crazy.
_I: It still happens…
_AM: Because it was not more than 60 years ago that, with the liberal movements, the hippies, and freedom of expression, many were finally able to express what they felt. For the first time, circles of friends began to come together who were able to share thoughts, feelings, hidden emotions, and support each other. And these same people became parents who listened to their children, and thus new generations emerged who dared to share, to express what they felt. And the new ones, after the 80s, the 90s, were born for the first time in social environments in which a large majority was open to talking, to showing, to crying and laughing without limits. This sensitized humanity, causing the following generations of the 2000s and 2010s to be born recognizing that they could tell, speak, say, express everything they are and feel. Of course, this makes humanity more neutral, so men and women begin to mix as the same gender, without differentiation between them. This process will take as many generations to become normalized, in some countries sooner than others, but you can see that every day more individuals share more of what they feel.
_I: Yes, it is difficult for some, especially the elderly, or people who live in complicated or closed environments, but in general, in most countries you can notice a more direct ease in establishing a connection with others. others on an emotional level.
_AM: The questions enabled the internal world to release the tensions of the soul, to investigate the hidden, recognizing that hiding weaknesses no longer makes us strong, it only makes us more fragile, since what is rigid breaks more easily. Weakness grants flexibility, thus, unlike the millions of years of repressing to be strong, we are living in an intermediate point, a “hinge” time, which makes humans begin to stop being animals and truly become a different kingdom. . Sharing, feeling, communicating from the depths, releasing the hidden, makes us free, safe, healthy.
_I: It's a nice vision. It is clear, then, the importance of there being so many therapists of so many kinds today.
_AM: Well, interaction is necessary, the liberation of everything hidden is necessary. Coming out into the Light is learning to Communicate.
_I: That's something that has been difficult for me. Although my task is communication, and I am sharing everything daily, communicating everything that happens to me, I recognize how difficult it is for me to communicate what happens to those closest to me. When I get angry, when I feel sad, when I fall in love, when I have to leave someone, when I have to solve a problem or participate in an argument. All of this has always been difficult for me, it has made me nervous, and even left me without a voice. This year I am learning to speak, thanks to connecting with you, I am having the ability to say what I think, what I feel. It is true that it is often difficult to say certain things to some people, but I have improved a lot.
_AM: I can tell. And above all, more and more you do it with the world. That is Communication at its finest. Communication comes from the words “com” (all, set), “munus” (carry, do, take charge) “icare” (convert, transform). Communication is the action of bringing something between several people to be converted into something new. The idea of communicating is to share data so that at the end of the talk it results in something new and enlightening. In the communication process there are a minimum of two interlocutors who constantly exchange roles: sender and receiver. One emits a message, be it a statement or question, and the other receives it, converting it into a new statement or question transcendental to the previous one, which enriches the content of the talk. This constitutes communication as the key method of a transforming verb.
_I: This makes me doubt then about calling those who are dedicated to informing the Media.
_AM: Of course, because there is no real Communication there, only direct. The sender is always the sender and the receiver is always the receiver, so the content does not evolve and is easy to be manipulated.
_I: Is that what's happening today?
_AM: Remember the reason why an individual is afraid to share what is inside him.
_I: Weakness…
_AM: If a system appears weak, it can shake the confidence of the people and generate a crisis that ends the power in power. For this reason, the Media have a fundamental role in the Stabilization or Destabilization of a power, be it political or business.
_I: I always hear that the media deceives us, lies, and manipulates us. Is that so?
_AM: It's deeper than that. There are two fundamental roles of the Media: Informative or Investigative. The media that are in charge of Information, receive the information as pre-established packages at an agreed price, and are dedicated to simply being the megaphone of preconceived and premeditated data. The news media are useful for keeping the population informed about events and general decisions, but they do not tell the truth, they only transmit what they receive.
_I: Oh, so it's not that they "lie", it's that they simply say what they receive without questioning it...
_AM: That's right. On the other hand are the Research Media. They themselves question things, search, investigate, get to the bottom of the matter, and transmit, report, what they themselves have discovered without any type of intermediary.
_I: This is better… No?
_AM: It depends.
_I: About what?
_AM: Whoever paid you to do the research.
_I: Oh, sure…
_AM: Today, humanity lives a period called “Infoxication”, in which we find ourselves intoxicated with information. There are many free channels on the Internet that offer their information services without carrying out any type of prior research, which generates more misinformation than information. On the other hand, the large hegemonic media are dedicated to making informative advertisements, in which, in case you have not noticed, they repeat the same data over and over again every day, causing a data bottleneck, in which only the established ones are released. by corporations. The fear of sharing what is wrong makes us increasingly limited, and the excess of information makes us believe anything. The role of the Media is fundamental. They emerge as a link between the systems and the people, as a kind of prosecutor, in charge of keeping everyone informed about what the people think of the government and what the government does for the people. This intermediary role is very sensitive and easy to be controlled by one side or the other, since on the people's side many unrealistic visions can arise that are mixed with the true ones, and on the government side, false data and bribes to the public can arise. communicators to control their words. The role of the Communication Media is essential in society, but the role they are performing today does not meet the expectations of their service.
_I: How to discern what is real from what is not? How do we know if the media is lying to us?
_AM: You can't know that. To do this you must do your own research, or fund those you trust to do it for you.
_I: What if those who investigate also lie to me?
_AM: There comes that moment when you must understand that there are two types of truths, the internal and the external. There are external truths that are absolute, but no one owns them. When a truth is absolute in the external world, the result will be the same whether the experiment and research is done in Canada, China or Botswana. Therefore, to find a truth, you need at least 3 diverse agents with different visions and stories who agree on it. You should never stick to just one channel of information to know the truth. And in the case of internal truth, information intoxication inevitably leads you towards internal trust, with yourself. Trust yourself.
_I: I understand.
_AM: But don't shut up. Never.
_I: It has happened to me sometimes that I feel like keeping quiet because I wonder: to what extent am I really communicating well? For example. I usually look at the negative comments that are often made to me to know where I am going wrong, or what I can improve when communicating. I am infinitely grateful for positive comments, always, but while the positive ones give me firmness and self-confidence, the negative ones are what give me evolution, to adapt. And in many cases what I see in the negative comments is that they are not constructive, but destructive. Many times I share my soul, my traumas, my addictions here, with thousands of people, with the aim of being an example, and in some cases what I receive is some comments of criticism focused on me, and on giving me advice so that I can improve my life according to your visions; or on the other hand, they also position themselves as vigilantes of what I said when they did not read what I said correctly, and if I tell them: “read correctly,” they claim that they did, that they read correctly, but I know they did not because they did not They understood what I said. So, beyond the fact that these types of comments are 1%, it is what I focus on to improve, but I realize that that 1% will never change their mind, because it is their personality, and they cannot like me. all…
_AM: As Leonino that you are, you want everyone to understand and accept what you are, and that will never happen. As a Capricorn rising you always believe you can improve, because nothing is enough. But let me tell you one thing, here you must listen to your soul, your Sagittarian moon, which reminds you that this is a game and you can't make everyone win or have fun. Not everyone likes the rules of the game. There are people who will judge chess as racist because there are blacks and whites, and even if it has nothing to do with racism, their ideas will be immutable. Will you stop playing chess because of this?
_I: No…
_AM: Will it stop raining because someone likes sunny days?
_I: No…
_AM: There are those who only look at the rainy day when the other 6 days of the week were sunny. You must take advantage of that rain to water the plants. For this reason, it is important that you release that rain from you. When an individual expresses the hidden, the shadows, the regret, it will not be long until interlocutors appear to respond to this new information. But that's why you grow. No one asks you to be strong, firm, no one puts the weight on your shoulders to support the world and not fall, no one forbids you to share your weakness. Communicating what is inside you frees you and frees others. Releasing the weight you carry in your shadows may scare or anger some, but free many others. One of the great challenges of this time is learning to communicate from the soul, and to do this, we must transcend judgment. So, identify the judgments, but don't adopt them.
_I: I understand… Thank you.
_AM: You do not need anyone's energy to exist, to be, because you are eternal energy, you do not depend on others, and yet, sharing with others is what will make you free.
_I: I open myself to sharing without fear, to communicating my truth, to communicating what I am, freeing myself from belief, communicating to the world the being that I am.
_AM: Talk to me, tell me, tell me... I will always be listening to you.