Attachments
_I: In my heart is the center that pulses everything I give and what I receive, like a constant exchange of energy. You said that what I am capable of giving is my tool with which I am useful and put myself at the service of others, when on the contrary, what I need to receive is the tool that I lack to complete my service, aspects in which I I feel useless, but that others have it. If I open myself to recognizing what I am missing, I also open myself to the possibility of receiving what I need. This is something that, as we said yesterday, is very difficult for us humans…
_AM: Well, you have the belief that recognizing yourself as useless for some things makes you have less power. As we said, since the Industrial Revolution, the idea was planted that humans are tools for factories; and the schools, founded in that same historical period, were designed to create better and more prepared tools for those factories. No people. This gave rise to the idea that a tool, or person, is either useful or useless, and if it is useless, it is discarded in the manufacturing chain. For this reason, two very old concepts emerged that became part of civilization: Competition and Empowerment. Competition led us to look for who had more capabilities, and for this reason, recognizing weaknesses or incompetence was seen as a defeat or failure. This is how the concept of Empowerment arises, which reminds us that “I can do anything.” Both are not bad concepts, but they are bad when you see only one aspect of them. It's like having a huge fruit forest but you can only see the apples, so you decide to cut down all the trees that are not apple trees so you can see them better and make more profit by planting only apples. Sooner or later, you will die of hunger, because you cannot live on apples alone. This shows why both capitalism and communism do not work, because they both monopolize products or people. The heart is flexible and adapts, integrates, and is unlimited. But it only finds its unlimited capacity when it recognizes that the power it seeks does not lie in the individual, but in the individual's ability to recognize that power is shared among everyone. It is not competition that makes me more powerful, nor equality makes me more fair, but it is expansion that makes me more balanced. Accepting my weaknesses, I recognize the power in the other, and opening myself to the other to ask for help, I recognize the strength that collaboration generates.
_I: For this reason, it is only when I accept my weaknesses and strengths that I can truly live in harmony with the world around me, and not when I consider myself all-powerful.
_AM: You are already all-powerful, but your personality is not. It is only a small aspect, tool and quality of your entire eternal capacity, which goes beyond time and space. Your power transcends your person, and encompasses humanity, at all times.
_I: How is this understood?
_AM: When you become aware that everything that exists is a constant projection, and that all humans are only aspects of the same organism that shares the same root, genetics, history, made up of the same elements, beyond DNA, of the races, the capacities, You are all carbon, nitrogen, oxygen, hydrogen, sulfur, iron, salts, etc... So, you understand that each human is a tree in a forest, or a rock in a mountain, who live in symbiosis. This way, if one needs something, the other will have what is missing to make up for it. But if you close yourself off to that possibility, believing yourself to be separate, you will never see what they are giving you. Being Self-Sufficient does not mean not depending on anyone, it means living in balance with everyone. The problem is that today, in the belief of separation, you live more dependent on others than any other species.
_I: By not recognizing our own abilities, trying to imitate those of others who have been successful, without opening ourselves honestly to our shortcomings, we end up depending even more on the environment. We are in a way attached to each other more than united.
_AM: Unity is achieved with the strength of the individual to recognize that his power is useful to others and that the power of others is useful to our inabilities. Otherwise, we spend so much energy doing it alone, believing that we are separate, that when we fall into frustration we end up completely depending on objects, situations or people. It is precisely the opposite result to what is sought. Since there is no harmony, there is stagnation, as if the strings and chords, by not recognizing their vibration and how it complements the one next to them, were trying to imitate others that resonate very well, getting tangled, stopping sounding but also preventing the others from ringing, creating knots that stop harmony, stagnating resonance and creating dependent ties.
_I: That's what we call attachment. Attachment, then, arises from having failed in the search for personal power, and delegating all our forces to an external agent. “I can, let me, I can”, he is based on the polarity of: “I know I can because I am learning”, and “I know I can't but I fear that they will believe me useless”. And in the second option, upon failure, I fall into dependency.
_AM: We are all born with the potential of the cosmos within, and we can all awaken qualities, abilities, gifts, but some will have it easier than others. This means that others will have more difficulties. But we can all do it. You have the innate ability to achieve the impossible. And this process is called Learning. Try and failure. Fundamentals to improve. The big mistake in the learning process is that of that student who considers that asking for help is a weakness, a failure, when in reality, it is key to learning. If you ask for help during the process, you will never fail, and perhaps, instead of depending on who knows in the long run, you will find the joy of recognizing that you can do it, because you were not afraid or ashamed to admit that you did not know how.
_I: Now I have it clearer. It's not just that there's no fixing what I'm useless about... But precisely recognizing what I'm useless about in time helps me improve and become useful by receiving help to be able to do it.
_AM: Fundamental key to the development of the Being.
_I: …And… How do I deal with attachments?
_AM: All humans, and many other beings, are attached to things, situations or people. The bonds that are generated in those chords of resonance between everyone make us depend on those things and individuals that have what we do not have. Attachment is the malfunction of giving and receiving. Having been closed to receiving and feeling lacking energy to give, I have no choice but to take that energy from an external source by force, such as a virus, insect or parasite that absorbs the host's energy to maintain internal functioning. This leads to addictions, whether to drugs, foods, vices, desires, or circumstances, actions, emotions and people.
_I: So everything to which I feel attached, are the things from which I obtain energy, although it is spent very quickly due to my inability to generate a correct circuit of giving and receiving, of expressing and learning, that is why I repeat the same thing over and over again...
_AM: Attachment just means “sticking to something,” like a tick on a dog. Holding on to what gives us what we need to live, but without giving anything in return. This lowers our vibration, makes us dependent, stops us, makes us sick.
_I: And detachment? Something that is talked about so much in the world of consciousness...
_AM: As its name indicates, it is the ability to let go, to free oneself from said dependency. But you have to know how to detach yourself. It is a concept that is often spoken of very lightly, and is forced. That is, when we say “let go”, “detach”, the person usually puts pressure on themselves internally as if entering into a detoxification process. For those addicted to objects, it is called abstinence, for those dependent on food, it is called fasting or diet, and for those emotionally dependent on situations or people it is called quarantine, that is, 40 days without having a relationship with said agents.
_I: And it works?
_AM: No, of course not.
_I: Why?
_AM: You have to be honest: who has started a diet to give up flour and has it worked? Under this same example, we must recognize the principle of reversion. That is, if you stop eating flour for a month, you will probably eat flour every day by the fourth week. If you have problems with your partner and decide to distance yourself or separate, you will surely enter a relationship again in which the same thing happens to you. You know why?
_I: No…
_AM: Because you believed that the problem of your dependency was the flour or your partner. And it is not like that. It is your inability to generate a balanced circuit in the energy of your body. It is not having had the courage to recognize your shortcomings, your inabilities, what you need, your weaknesses. Not to go to the past and face the moment when you began to see flour or your partners as a solution to your problems.
_I: I understand, it's the typical boomerang effect. No matter how much you throw it and let it go, it will come back with the same force. What fails is not what I see today, but the energy that links me to the subject. I must see my shortcomings and uselessness to know why I am dependent.
_AM: Therefore, after passing through the heart, when you reach the plexus, you will recognize that everything you accumulate in your belly are the attachments, the things that you are afraid to let go, that you do not know how to let go. What gaps are you trying to cover by filling them with external things? Recognize your attachments, and you will know where the origins of your needs are.
_I: I must make a list, then, of my attachments and detachments...
_AM: You must write down both to become aware of where the knots are in your giving and receiving, in the natural circuit of your own energy machinery. But don't let go of the subjects you are attached to. When you manage to identify them, changing your consciousness and attitude towards them, they will simply dissolve, and one day, they will disappear. Letting go is a trauma, as it breaks and breaks ties. Think about this: if the guitar strings are the ones that, having lost one of them the ability to sound on its own in tune with the others, decide to seek their power in another of the strings by getting tangled and stopping the vibration of all of them, what? What will be the solution to untangle it and play the guitar again? Would you cut the ropes with scissors?
_I: No, of course not, because I couldn't play the guitar anymore and nothing would sound. He would have to adjust it, and tune it.
_AM: So, do not let go or cut ties to which you are attached. For eternally and inevitably everything is connected in the universe. To get into harmony, first recognize which string was knotted, go to the origin of it and adjust it. Naturally it will release from the other, and they will begin to sound harmoniously.
_I: I can see it very clearly, yes... All my life I have believed that I should cut or let go of those unhealthy ties that I had with situations, things, people... But the truth is that I did not have to erase them from my life, but rather find the balance , well they are part of me, and the only problem is that I couldn't see that the reason I became attached is because I was the one who became maladjusted, unable to manage my own give and take...
_AM: There you understand what detachment is. Then you will be able to identify that the things from which you managed to detach yourself are those to which you brought consciousness, understanding, clarity, and that instead of cutting, you healed. These are the situations in which you can become friends with your ex-partners, or eat pizza without guilt at meals with friends.
_I: Attachment and Detachment…
_AM: So, take your notebook, and write the title: BONDS, and below two columns where you put the subtitles: Attachments and Detachments. Write in the first one, with total sincerity, those things, situations or people to which you feel you are attached at this moment. And in the other column, those things from which you recognize that you have managed to detach yourself, that is, the things or people in which you have found balance and on which you previously depended. Without judgment or preconceptions, simply what is and what you have in you. You must recognize, there will be time to balance it and work on it.
_I: Yes, I understand. So, I am preparing to recognize my attachments.
_AM: Detaching yourself in the beautiful and harmonious melody of the song that resonates in the beat of your heart.